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Bless the Mess, Mama
If you’re like me you probably have a pile of clothes to be washed, a pile of clothes to be put away, and endless stream of dishes, toys everywhere and you’re constantly trying to find a clean sock.
I have a busy life like so many other women. Trying to work, Keep house, take care of your children. After a while it can be frustrating. Frustration can quickly build up until you’re ready to throw away your entire house. You can feel as though your just not good enough.
Well, you know what? A messy house is not a sign of failure. Sometimes you just need to sit down in the midst of your mess and enjoy your life, mess and all. Play with the kids, throw everything on the bed or couch on the floor put your feet up and read your book.
There will always be a mess, but there will never be another today. So, find some peace. I am a huge fan of de-cluttering and making life simple. But even that takes time. So, mama, just take a moment to breathe. Mama’s are the ones who always take care of everyone’s needs. Seldom taking care of there own. You need some time to appreciate the work you do and realize you are more than the housework, more than the mess. The mess does not define you. We are living in a time where we are blessed to be able to accumulate a lot of stuff. Sometimes too much stuff.
Here are some tips to help you both feel less stressed and to take down the mess:
1.) Slow cooker meals are your friends
You can throw almost anything in the pot add some spices and it’s going to taste good. Plan your dinners ahead of time. This helps you make the knots of your Ingredients which allows you to save money.
2.) Wardrobe Prep
I like to prep at least 3 outfits. I gather shirt, bottom and any accessories on a hanger and hang it in the back of my bedroom door. So, running late in the morning? Just stumble out grab the pre-selected outfit and head to the bathroom.
3.) Junk Basket
I have a basket that at the end of the night if I can’t find a home for it, or I’m too tired, I throw whatever is on the floor in the basket. It keeps my floor clear, which helps the mess not become overwhelming and it keeps it in one place. Then, I can sort it out as I have time.
I can’t stress this enough. The right music in your house can set the atmosphere. There is a reason the musicians lead the battle in the Old Testament. Music is powerful. There is a lot of great Christian music out there, Chris Tomlinson, Darlene Zesche, Paul Wilbur, to name just a few. I love the power of a full orchestra, sometimes instrumental music is all you need. Keep the atmosphere in your home one that invites God to walk with you. Perry Stone also offer a great Cd of Harp music.
5.) Accept the Mess
If you have kids, work, have a busy life you’ll probably some mess. Don’t let the stress get to you, don’t shame yourself. Embrace your life.
6.) Keep the Laughter
I just listened to an amazing service by Marilyn Hickey about laughter. You should go to her Facebook page and watch it! Laughter really is the medicine of the soul. Stay joyous. My mother has always been able to laugh and keep those around her laughing all through my life, and we have had some crazy trials. Keep the joy of the Lord in your heart and let it ease your wounds and take the stress of your back.
7.) Pack Seasonal Items
My closet is not that big. I store away my winter clothes when it’s summer, and vice versa. It creates more room and lets me see what I actually have.
8.) Do a Little De-clutter at a Time
Don’t overwhelm yourself, choose one area at a time to de-clutter. Make piles of store, keep, donate, trash. Set goals that are not above your reach. Once you start seeing progress you’ll feel that great sense of accomplishment and it will help you tackle other areas.
9.) Schedule Your Cleaning
I love calendars. I love the big dry erase ones you hang on the wall. This let’s everyone be on the same page. You can easily set up daily, weekly, and monthly tasks to help control the cleaning so it doesn’t become overwhelming. Having lists breaks things down making them more manageable.
10.) Find Time for You
Mama’s always work to make everyone happy, to keep them fed, and clothes and clean. They work to make sure they have all the things they need. Sometimes mama;s, you go to take time for yourself. This will be different for everyone. Maybe you want to stay up late wit hNetflix or a novel. Maybe you just want a nap when your child naps. Don’t feel guilty and do not think you have to take time for yourself the way others do. But make sure you are fitting in some time to make yourself happy, even if that means letting the dishes sit for night.
Always stay grateful
I’m grateful for the luxuries I have. I have a warm house, food, clothing, books, entertainment on the TV. These are blessing. I may have a mess on the floor, but that does not mean I’m a bad mother or housekeeper. It means we have a life. I don’t let it sit there. I clean it up, and a new mess will take it’s spot. That’s okay.