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Things a mom never has to apologize for
Let’s hear it for the moms! being a mom I think it’s the greatest job in the face of the earth. I never know how much I would love it until I became pregnant with my precious baby girl. It’s a job that the world could not do without and one that does not always get the recognition it deserves. It’s full of joys and it can also come with stress and unwanted advice and criticism. Many people can feel they have the right to tell you how or what to do as a mom. Never underestimate mother’s intuition. I believe this is a gift from God. Being a mom is a lot of work. Thee are some things a mo should never have to apologize for. Because you love your family and you are doing a great job.
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1.) The amount of toys you have around the house
I buy my daughter a lot of toys. I’m always at a garage sale or thirst store and my daughter and I have a habit of finding lots of treasures. She also has a lot of aunts and a grandmother who love her to pieces, I do rotate toys, however, I still have a lot of toys. We play together with them throughout the day and have a great time. There building blocks in the kitchen, cars in the hallways, and dolls in the living room. I clean, and guess what? It gets messed up. We live In a home with freedom of play. My daughters freedom to be a toddler and play is more important that someone’s impression of whether I keep a neat home. Im not a slob, I wash our clothes, clean the floors and do the dishes. We don’t live in a dirty house, but we don’t live in a pristine home that feels stuffy or stifled. A mom should never have to apologize for her children being children and playing. Playing is extremely helpful in your child’s development. Feel free to spread those toys and hop on the floor and play with your children as much as you can.
2.) What she wears
My mom is a fashionista. She loves high hells and never leaves the house without lipstick. Her ability to be put together never harmed my growing up, if anything it let me know how it was possible to be a mom, be busy, and still look the way you want to take care of the things that matter to you. Often she was given a hard time about this. On the flip side, there were days when she had her pajamas pants in during the day and this was also something she was criticized for. The point is, whether you want to get dressed up, or you want to live in your comfy sweats and t-shirt you don’t have to explain nor apologize for your choice of clothes. The important thing is that you are taking care of yourself and that you are doing what you need to do to be the best mom you can be. Right now I’m writing this wearing a wonderful pair of super comfy sweatpants.
3.) A messy home
I grew up in a large family. There was always something going on and someone getting into something that produced a mess. Someone deciding to cook, a messy new dish. There was always something. Now, being a mom I know exactly how hard it can be some days to keep the house neat. Sure, some days it’s a breeze, but not often. You know why? Because my house is a home, not a sterile environment kept prestige in case a visitor should happen to stop by and think bad of me if they see the amount of dirty towels waiting to be brought to the washer. My family is free to play, free to well, be free. Yes, we all help clean and cleaning is important. Yet, sometimes it’s spend your day cleaning or spend your day enjoying your family and getting more important work accomplished. Don’t apologize for the mess. Having a family means there will be mess, just roll with it, clean as you can. Set a schedule, but don’t become a slave to keeping your house clean because you don’t ant to be judged.
4.) Choosing to spending her free time with her children/family
Children are so much fun, stressful, sure, but fun nonetheless. They are such a treasure and they grow incredibly fast. Spending time with your children and enjoying it is the privilege of every mother. Some people I have found will actually shame a mom for spending time with her children. Let me tel you this, you are not going to hurt your child or yourself by loving and spending time with your child. You have every right to kindly telling those people to mind their business even if it is your mother-in-law. So, cheers to the women who would rather play with their children than go out. I’m not saying you can’t take time for yourself. I’m saying nobody has the right to shame you for your choice of wanting to spend time with your family over doing other things.
5.) Nurturing and being there for her children
Mothers are known for being nurturing and loving, and comforting. So, I really don’t understand those who try to dissuade mothers from doing just that. I’m not talking about she,tearing your children from the world, I’m talking about caring about what they care. Did your little child just misplace their most beloved doll? It’s okay to comfort them and help them find out or replace it if it’s really lost. We don’t need to “toughen up” our children. We need to give them ,one and support and security to deal with the world in a confident manner. If it matters to your child it’s okay to let it matter to you.
6.) To not follow the latest parenting trend
I’m not a fan of those sarcastic mom videos. I find them obnoxious and not loving or helpful in the least. I raise my children with the Bible and love. Yes, I take medical advice, and so on. The only trend I may follow is with shoes. Otherwise, I like old-fashioned, I like mothers instinct. I like being led by God. I don’t like raising my children by pop-culture trends that fade and often have no substance. Don’t be ashamed because you don’t like kale and still eat eggs and let your children play in the mud.
7.) Her children being children and crying in public
Children have every right to be in public places as anyone else. There are plenty of grown adults who are loud, pushy, and rude in public who know better. Children are just developing their emotions. They cry, it’s a fact if life, people can deal or move along. You do not have to feel bad if your toddler I’d exercises her healthy lungs at the grocery store, restaurant, airplane or any other place. Children also like to run, laugh and play. You don’t have to apologize for any of it. You also don’t have to apologize if you give your child a treat to help them calm down so you can get through the rest of your grocery list.
8.) Wanting more children and loving pregnancy
There are plenty of Facebook memes and groups for those who don’t enjoy pregnancy or want more children. Those voices are loud and represented. What I don’t see represented are the women who actually love pregnancy, who enjoy it, morning sickness and all, and who want a lot of children. I was in a waiting room while I was somewhere between 6-7 months pregnant. The secretary kept insisting I would hate my third trimester and insisting I would be in so much pain and so on. We almost got into a bit of an argument when I calmly told her I was loving everything about it. I didn’t get the pain she tried to put on me. I even had a natural birth and I can’t sit to do it again. Some people don’t like others enjoying things. If they had it hard they want everyone to have it hard. Don’t let anyone curse you. Rebuke it in the name of Jesus and the rejoice in your blessing. You want more children? Praise the lord more God fearing children will be brought into this world. Don’t let anyone scare, shame or curse you from the blessing of children!